Dated my ex for 3 years (2017-2020). In that 3 years there has been 4 break up by my ex. It was a new job so I didn’t have any vacation days to take just yet. Anyways I saw her after work and we patch things up. Her birth month is September and mine is December. Save I notice each time any of our birthdays come around there is a problem. In 2019 after our anniversary I found out she was cheating through a mutual friend. I eventually made peace and forgave her before confronting her. In I attended her graduation and took her out to celebrate.
From that the relationship was never the same
She left me following day via text message. I asked her why she couldn’t answer me. Some time had pasted and we started speaking in late January and in February she confessed to cheating. I put in the past and after talking for a few weeks we got back together. A few days after our anniversary in 2020 the relationship was broken again. I was given the cold shoulder like I did her something. After placing for a month I decided leave her alone. The relationship ended in May and we patched things up at the end of August. Things were going fine ( or so I thought) until October 3rd where the relationship was stopped yet again. The excused given was that she was unhappy in the relationship.
The last message sent to me the day she broke up with me was ” can’t you see that I Kansas city sugar daddy have left you alone so you can continue being the best boyfriend to who ever you want and and stop blaming me for everything. I was confused because we never argued, muchless blame reach other for stuff. It took me a while to understand what she met. She was stating that her life was unhappy and she let me go to heal and fix her self. Through October she would beg me to leave her alone to the point where she cut off all forms of contact. Yes I was blocked and so I did some a cleansing (delete numbers ,media and so on). Turns out it was my ex and I replied she said to leave her alone (which I did yet again).
By November 1 st I notice she messaged me again and I replied which started a conversation. I also nice I could see her display picture and status updates. We conversed right through the day. Half way through day two she stopped messaging for awhile and her status update changed to “broken, time to heal”. When she started messaging me again her attitude was different and she was very agressive towards me and then she calmed down. On November 3rd I asked her about going to the drive theatre that just opened in my country and she said should go with friends and I asked her if she isn’t my friend to which she replied “no”. I asked her if it is a case where she is unconfirmed m uncomfortable with me and reply was that things were moving too fast which means it’s too soon for us to meet up.
And she stopped talking to me from then. I still love this girl wholeheartedly but I need help I’m walking around like a sad depressed sack.
What ever her situation is, it took a toll on her and the relationship we had
Ps. From the break up last month she has been very angry towards me and it’s like she doesn’t know why.
Some people will check in everywhere they go, post every day and make lots of stories. Some barely post at all. One man will post couples pictures – another will never do so.
That self-esteem boost that he was getting every day from talking to you, you calling him pet names like babe or honey – it’s gone. He’s trying to find a way to get some of that back.
We especially see this with men who are trying to go on the rebound. They are trying to get validation from other women so that they feel better about themselves and their situation.
We broke up three months ago. He broke up with me and in the first few weeks checked up on me a bit, I did the same. Then I decided to give him real space in April. Three weeks in he messaged me and we converse a bit about our lives. He tells me he misses me and has his bad days. That maybe we can be together in the future but now he still has anxiety. We ended the convo by saying let’s chat once in a while and see how we feel. A week later, I was very upset and I asked him to collect his things from my house (some weeks before he said he wasn’t in a rush to get them and that he wanted me to keep his house keys just in case). I found this unfair and it made me hang on to hope. Then two days later I viewed an insta story and it triggered me. I decided to tell him now i feel, that I want to fix things as friends and see how we can develop our relationship. He then became very cold, told me he didn’t even see me as a friend, and he has plans to move countries soon. Another week after I messaged again apologizing, he was still really cold and he asked for space.
I caved and I texted him and asked him to hang out and he said he couldn’t. I said I’m sorry I didn’t realize you were boyfriend and girlfriend and he said I am commited to her. When he literally would never commit to me. I’m just miserable. I’m just miserable. I know he was a dick but there is a big part of me that felt like there was a strong connection there and I hate that he is gone for good this time.